Thursday, July 26, 2007

Libyan Social Life, is it fair?

Romana asked for an update, and so here goes it: I have alot to write about but so little time. I have been spending so much time all over the place. It is been more then a week worth of going out every single day, sometimes twice a day. Today, i have to go to my dad's sister's house. So really things are so busy. I cant wait until its time to have time for myself. Growing up i missed all of these things but now as wonderful as they are i do feel they are many times more then i can handle!!! I have alot of things to say as a result of these gatherings, and the conversations we had but for now, i just wanted to say that im ok..Latest-- my uncle and his son( from Germany) leave today..Wish you two a safe trip home.. Slowly everyone is getting ready to go back *home?!*....life here goes on, and my question remains is the Libyan social life fair to one's self??

11 comments:

PH said...

"my question remains is the Libyan social life fair to one's self??"

Depends on the person, even though at times it can be tiresome, but being supportive and affectionate is good and at times of need everyone needs help and support so its best not to be selfish when we can afford to help and support others.

As long as you don't push the limits and it isn't at the expense of your own health and needs I think its ok:).

salaam

Happymoi said...

I agree that there is a need to be supportive but for how long?? i'm not saying i have a problem with going there but i reached a point where i got so tired of the routine, i go there set, hear people talk talk and talk..and half of the people if not 99% i dont even know....and its like that every single day...i dont mind family get togethers when everyone around is family as it is always nice...i think the demands of libyan social life takes away alot from us, including time we need to spend with our immediate families (dad,mom, siblings)..having said all that, im all for being there at times of need and all but what im saying is that the way its done here its more then just support i think even the people in need of support want some time for themselves..in libya, instead of them morning their dead,caring for their sick, they end up cooking and serving those supposdly supporting them...i dont know if my point is understood but i hope so!!!

PH said...

"but i hope so!!!"

Yes it was !!!!!!!!!!

looooooooooool

I understand what you mean which is why I left the exception in my last sentence it is up to you to draw the line, it isn't a cultural thing if you keep cooking people will keep coming back for more, you have to know how to deal with it/them subtley and without hurting anyone.

As for your case maybe it has more to do with the fact that you are relatively new to Libya and you don't know many of your relatives ? Maybe thats why you don't feel comfortable around them your in more of a formal mood .... I used to be like that when I was younger until I got to know my distance cousins better than I got more relaxed even with them around .... it depends :P.

salaam sis and hope you weren't offended.

Happymoi said...

me offended? are you kidding me? ble3akes, your my bro i'd never get offended by what u say..aslan there was nothing offensive in what u said..im glad you got what i was saying..loooooool...
how many times did i use say/saying????im lacking sleep..lol all cuz of gatherings
hehe

a_akak said...

libyan social life is like the never ending cycle of something unknown yet so wonderful that it feel so weird and its so weird that u feel numb and you just float .............. i have been to busy with my 2 cousins wedding that i am yet to meet some of my friends ............. next week insha allah things will go back to normal

dont worry, you will survive and live to tell the tail on the blog

Fe Aman allah

ibeebarbie said...

Salam Happymoi,
I'm feeling like running to a quiet isolate spot just reading this. I'm a much more smaller group gal than the whole lot. It's too much energy and stimulation for me that I feel my head wants to explode. Although I'm having a good time with everyone, there's always a part of me that wants to escape. ;-) So when you feel that way, I'll take you in. You can re-group then go back out to the masses. :o)

LovelyHibo said...

i am agreee with ahmed:)

be happy ...;)


see you one day..

Romana said...

i dont know happymoi, i personally didnot grow up in all of this. no uncles around, no aunties, no grandma's or grandpa's... just my parents, my sibilings, and i, thats it... the occasional visit from our relatives everyone once in a while, but thats about it, so i dont know how to answer this question..

but from an outsider's point of view, i sometimes think its a bit too much, it can reach to a stage where u hate everyone and u just want to be left alone, i can say that because 2 of my best friends tell me so... but if it were me, i dont know what i would've said...

Stranger said...

ليبيا أميرة سحرت العقول والقلوب
ولن يضرني أن أتجرع مرارة الحياة فيها:)

red1 said...

Recently i had a visitor from Libya and this piqued me to look deeper into not just the history but what is ticking about it now and future. So i googled for 'social life in libya' and i got to here. I have an interest in societies that are different and distinctive - not boring. So this blog should make good reading

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